Understanding the End of a Relationship

When a relationship ends, it does’nt end making a great sound. A relationship ends so silently that you may not even understand that your relationship has come to an end. But what would you think of doing, when you see that your partner is leaving you. What would you do to keep your relation. Would you think about leaving your partner. Would you think that you should not continue a relationship like this. Feeling like this is feeling like an idiot. Sorry for saying, but i think you should try to make your partner love you at any cost without thinking of having a break up.

Cheating in a Relationship
How to Create a Good Understanding with Your Life Partner

A proper understanding of the connection you have with your partner helps you understand the strength of your relation. Your partner may not always be able to tell why he or she is trying to leave you. There may be many type of reasons when a relationship comes to an end. By the way, considering the different characteristics of relations, it can be said that a relationship does not end overnight.The whole thing takes long time and there are definitely lots of reasons behind a break up. However, if you don’t understand that your partner does not love you as before, it may the worst understanding you have with your partner. Life shows many different situations, where it can not be always understood if your partner loves you or not.

But for the sake of keeping your relationship healthy, you must try to realize it. You must understand what your partner feels about you. Because keeping a relation without the scent of love is just nothing but working hard like an idiot. You may love your partner very much. But it is not always true that your partner would also love you in the same way. Your partner may not love you the way you love your partner. Now if you feel that your partner loves you very much, (don’t take me wrongly) you are such an idiot. Do you know, there was no relationship ever at all in a situation like this. So would you think about leaving this relationship?

Never at all, at least i would never suggest you to do that. In a situation where you are not loved by your partner is like a situation where you feel that you know everything. But whatever you know is wrong. This is an absolute end of a relationship. Now the question is How would you understand if your partner loves you or not? How would understand how strong your relationship is?

Understanding the depth of your relations is just like a difficult work, but of course not impossible. Leaving a relationship, because your partner does’nt love you is never a good choice when you love your partner strongly. What is the good choice?

The good choice is you have to make your partner love you at any cost. If you are able to do that, you are the winner and of course a successful relationship maker. Always keep a mindset of being successful at every single part of your life. Whatever the situation is you have to be successful in your life at any cost. Keeping a mindset like this actually works a lot, but most people would not agree how effective it is. Hope you have now understood that if you love your partner and your partner is trying to leave you, just don’t let that happen, do whatever you can to keep this relationship for your life. Utilize your inteligence to use many tricks. By the way, everything is fair in love and war. It is also a war of love, a war of keeping a good relationship.

Importance of Saying " I Love You " in Relationships

Making someone understand your feelings is very important in any type of relationship. If you are in a relationship that you love a lot, you must make your partner understand your feelings about the relationship. Because it is very important to have a good understanding in any relationship. If you don’t have good level of understanding with your life partner, your relationship might break up in the middle. But i am not against your feelings to hide something from your partner. But if there is something important you are hiding from your life partner, it is never going to the right direction. If you want a solid and strong relationship with your life partner, you must share your life enough with your partner to show how much you give importance to the relationship.

If you are in a relationship and you love your relationship so much, you should show your partner your interest in the relationship. There are many times people forget to show their love or inerest in their partners. In this way, their partners start thinking that their partners don’t give them much importance. Truthfully speaking, such relationships go to a wrong direction of breaking up which is never a good solution. See, you may be feeling love for someone you are in relation with. But if yoy don’t show your love, you partner would most probably think that you don’t feel any importance.

I understand that sometimes people feel that they should shoe their love. Or they just want others to love them. But imagine how long is it possible for someone to love you if you don’t love the person. When someone loves you, you will surely get a sense of satisfaction. In the same way if someone loves you, he or she would also want you to love them. If after showing love for a long time, someone does not get the satisfaction of being loved by you, one day that person would leave you. This is how most relationships break. But partners never understand the simple thing. If want love from somone, you should also love the person. Otherwise it is very impossible to continue such a relationship.

All these were about how much it is important to show your love in any relationship. It was about how much it is important to save your relationship from a break up. It was about how to have a healthy and loving relationship all the time with your partner. It is very important to understand to save your reationship. Showing your love creates a strong bonding with your partner. Building a strong relationship is not possible until or unless both of the partners feel that both of them love each other. If one is feeling that the other one loves from heart and he (she) takes the enjoyment all the time, once the relationship would surely break. Because the other one is not getting the expections from the relationship fulfilled. Ultimately the relationship breaks up. Sometimes, it can be seen that the relationship does not break. But the partners keep it for a significant reason of their life. But these relationships become stale day by day leaving the partner apart.

Consider very carefully, how long would you like to love somone who does not feel any importance for you. May be, in the beginning, you will show your love so much that your partner understands your feelings. But after a long time of showing your love and giving,much importance to your partner, if you feel that your partner does not feel any importance for you, you will most likely break up.

This is what ultimatly happens in a relationship where love is from one side only. If your relationship is not one sided and if you feel that your partner truly loves you and also love your partner, show your love as well. Don’t just take enjoyment having your partner loving,you so much. Remember, the more you will do this, the more you will loose your partner from life. By the way, most people don’t understand it and day by day create a big reason to break up with their partners unknowingly. Hopefully, after reading this article, you will try to save your love and your life partner and your relationship

How to Build Trust in Your Relationship

Building trust in any relationship is extremely important to keep your relationship healthy. It is not very difficult to build trust with your partner. It only needs some clarifications on few things that we don’t become very careful about while building a good relationship. First of all, you need to understand the importance of building trust with your partner. You need to realize how much building trust is important for your relationship to grow. You should also realize how much trust makes your relationship strong and trustworthy. Once you realize the importance of understanding all these things, you would sure start to build trust with your partner with an expectation of a healthy relationship. So if you have made up your mind and want to know how to build trust gradually, continue to read…… Love yourself and your partner

Loving yourself is fine. However, it is normal feeling for every human being. But when you are in a relationship, try to give your partner some importancw that you give for yourself. Definitely, you may love your partner so much. But if your partner does’nt understand your love, there is really no need of having love for your partner. A relationship like this feels very stale. It does’nt give true happiness to our heart. So what is important to make it working for your relationship. You need to build trust so much in your relation that your partner does’nt become doubtful about you and your love. You would surely try to build trust if you love yourself. 

You may not understand my words. I don’t say that you don’t love your partner. But my thought is a little different here. You surely love your partner. But for most people in the world, this love comes after the love of your own self. I trying to be a liitle pratical here. But if consider carefully, you would undestand that somewhere you love your partner because you love yourself. So you want someone to accompany you, to love you and to be with you all the time. So at first, love yourself. You will automatically start feeling love for your partner. So you will realize the importanc of building trust in your relationship. In this way, loving yourself and your partner should be the first step before you take steps to build trust. 

Have a nice friendship with your partner

Friendship is the most important relationship in the world. Because it can create connections with just anyone. Having a new connection with someone unknown gives a feelling of comfort and trust when a relationship starts with that person. All of these started from a connection that started with a friendship. So friendship has much more power to create a sharing attitude in your partner’s mind. So try to like a true friend more than a life partner. Because sometimes, there are things you can share with your friend, but not with your life partner. Just imagine, if you can become a good friend a lot more than just a life partner, it can be quite easy for your partner to open up in front of you. This is the reason why a relationship starting from a friendship much stronger than a relationship that started directly without any friendship. 

Sometimes, sharing with a friend is easier than sharing with your life partner. So try to become a friend at first to your partner. Let your partner become comfortable to share things with you. It will automatically build trust in your partner’s mind for you and your relationship will keep growing stronger. 

Have a positive attitude

Having a positive attitude is extremely important before start building trust with your partner. Just like, love does’nt have a single definition as it has different definitions for everyone, different people have different way of thinking about love and life. Some people have positive attitude that their partner’s love them. Some people have negetive attitude that their partners don’t love them. It is extremely difficult for people like this to build trust. Because they themselves are very doubtful about their partners. Truthfully speaking, the number of people with negetive attitude like this is much more. So don’t have a mentality like this before you try to build trust in your relationship. Believe me, you have to believe your partner at first. Then it is possible for your partner to believe you. Otherwise building trust is never possible.

Become truthful to your partner

If you want your partner to share everything with you, you have to at first share things with your partner. Make your partner feel how much importance you give. If your partner is a little doubtful in the beginning, take it normally. It is quite normal and you should not bother thinking so much about it. You may keep some secrects to yourself. But you should always try to share as much as possible to help your partner have a feeling of trust on you. 

Your relationship would surely become stronger and successful if your partner start sharing secrects with you. Be patient and give your partner enough time to think about you. Let your partner feel your importance in life. Then, your partner would surely have trust on you. Always remember, building trust in a relationship takes time. It also depends on the mentality of both the partners. Trust is built gradually. Your partner will not have trust on you overnight. Have a solid understanding on these things and then, utilize your intellience to make your relationship work.

DATE A GIRL THAT IS TALLER THAN YOU

Society's old ways of thinking, including those ideas that tell us that a male should always be taller than a female he is in a relationship with, are obsolete. Even so, sometimes we need ways to deal with this kind of role reversal.

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First of all, you must be confident. Your height is something you can do nothing about, and you need to be able to come to terms with that. If you cannot accept yourself the way you are, how can you expect anyone else to? Most of the time, if you are unpreoccupied with something like this, something superficial, your significant other most likely won't be concerned at all.

 

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Talk about it. In a relationship, one of the most important skills is to be able to communicate with your significant other. Tell her that this is something that you may be sensitive about or even just that you don't want it to become an issue. Most girls won't care.

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You may need to make a decision about whether to date a girl based on her acceptance of your height. In the long run, and even in the short run, height, as with all other superficial aspects of someone's appearance, is extremely unimportant. Much more important is chemistry and enjoyment and acceptance of each other.

No one likes to be dumped or rejected. Here's how to improve your chances.

 

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Avoid becoming obsessed. No one likes a stalker. This does not mean not to hang around with her or go places with her a lot. It just means that if it's quite obvious she doesn't want to hang around you, or if she is doing something private (such as a get-together with close friends), then give her some space.

Stop Jealous Thoughts

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Do not hit on people continuously, especially not in front of your girl. She could get the feeling that you don't like her. If you hit on her, make sure you don't do it all the time.

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Make sure you smell good -- hygiene is important. No one is going to want to hang around with someone who smells bad.

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Look good. She won't like it if you wear the same thing all the time. Just try to switch it up. You don't constantly have to change outfits. You might even want to joke about how to always wear the same clothes.

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Be nice to her friends. Don't give the impression you are interested in them beyond friendship. This is a big one. If you become friends with her friends, she will love you for it.

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Don't try and force anything on her. If you come out straight away and tell her you are interested in her in "that" way, she may become uncomfortable around you. Keep in mind, some people would prefer you to tell them straight up.

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Don't come on too strong at first. Be casual and cool. You'll know if she wants you to come on stronger. If she is coming on stronger than you are, that generally means you can step it up.

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Do not say that you are going to kill yourself if she gets mad at you, that may make her think that you are slightly obsessive, and have nothing better to live for than her.

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Don't try to rush her into anything, you'll only push her away.

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Don't talk to your friends about other girls. They might tell your girlfriend and she will want to ignore you.

ZAWADI YA USALITI

ZAWADI YA USALITI

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Janeth, Ni binti mzuri, mrembo mwenye kila aina ya mvuto machoni mwa wanaume wengi, amejawa Na maneno mazuri kinywan mwake yenye kumfaliji kila aliye pata nafasi ya kuongea nae, kutokana Na hali hiii, ilimpa wakati mgumu sanaaaaa Janeth, kwani vijana kwa wazee walihisi kupendwa na Janeth hivyo wengi wao walimuhitaji kimapenzi lakina mungu si hadhumani, hivyo Janeth aliweza kushinda majalibu yaliyo msonga kwa kufuata malengo aliyokwisha jiwekia kwambva hawezi kuingia katika suala la mapenzi na ngono  katika umri mdogo hivyo basi ukomo wa malengo yake ni pale atapofika  Elimu ya chuo kikuu na mungu atapomjalia akapata mchumba aliye mwema;amakweli nimeamini lile unalofikiri ndivyo linavyokuwa kwani malengo ya Janeth yalimfanya afanyejitiada ili  yaweze kamilika  hivyo alifaulu kidato chasita na alichaguliwa kujiunga na chuo kikuu DARES SALAAM UNIVERSITY(Mlimani)huku akitakiwa kusomea masomo ya sheria,kiukweli wazazi ,ndugu najamaa walifurahi kuona jJaneth anatimiza malengo aliyokwisha jiwekea angali bado mdogo,Mzee Masanja hakuwa  na wasi na mwanae kwani aliamini mwanae anajitambua ,anajiheshimu vilevile aliamini mwanae anajilinda kwani haijawahi tokea hata siku moja kwa mzee masanja kupata taarifa zisizo nzuri kuhusiana na Janeth; Pind janeth anasubiri ili aweze kujiunga  chuoni, nikipindi ambacho,mzee masanja alipata pesa za mafao ya uzeeni hivyo basi mambo hayakuwa mabaya kwa upande wa pesa katika familia ya mzee masanja,Baada ya miezi sita kupita Janeth alitakiwa kuwasili chuoni                                                                  

Ilikua siku ya ijumaa pale ndugu; jamaa pamoja na rafki walipokutana nyumbani kwa mzee masanja kwenye tafrija ya kumuaga bintiye Janeth, kwan siku iliyofuata alikua akielekea dar es salaam masomoni, kila mmoja alikua na furaha kwa namna yake japo wenye chuki huwahawakosekani pia vile vile wenye wivu mbaya wakiwemo ni mwiongoni mwao kutokana na mafanikio ya janeth basi bwana shamla shamla za sherehe zilipo kwisha Janeth aliwatakia usiku mwemawazazi wake kisha aliingia chumbani kwake kwa lengo la kuendelea na maandalizi ya safari kuelejea Bongo Dae es salaam,kiukweli usiku mmoja lakini kwa Janeth ulikua ni kama mwaka mzima kwani hakuweza kupata usingizi kwa muda ambao huwa anapata kila siku,usiku huu Janeth alijiuliza mambo mengi ambayo baadhi yalipata majibu lakini yaliyo mengi majibu hayakupatikana jabsa hvyo alisubiri muda yatapomkabili ndipo apambane nayo maana hakuwa na jinsi yakuyakwepa kabsaaa,janeth”Hivi nikifika Dar es salaam sina ndudu,rafki,wala mtu ninayemjua kweli nitakua na amani choni mimi?je kama nikitapeliwa nitafanyaje mimi?nikipata matatizo ugenini nani atakua teyali kunisaidia mm?” kipind Janeth akijiuliza maswali haya ndipo alipo ukalibisha usingizi bila hata kupata majibu ya maswari aliyokuwa akitafakari ,baada ya masaa kama mawili kupita  njozi juu ya malengo aliyokwisha jiwekea zilianza kumtawara binti mrembo,kwani aliota amepata mchumba anaye mjari,anamdhamini,anampenda na ameahidi kumsomesha njee ya nchii pindi atapomaliza masomo yake ya sheria ,kiukweli janeth alifurahi mnoona akamshuru mungu kumuongoza kutimiza ndoto zake na malengo yake ebwaaanaeeee Glafla Janeth anashituka usingizini anajikuta yupo kitandani,Janeth anavuta taswira anagundua kuwa alikua anaota  “Hivi mimi Janeth haya mambo naotaaa au miujizaaaaaaaa?AAAAAHHH alipigwa na butwaa kumbe ndoto ili mfanya asahau safari yake ya kuelekea dares salam hvyo alichukua saa yake ya mkononi kutizama aligundua kuwa ni saa 9 kasolo dakika 12.janeth aliona mapema mno kuanza kujiandaa kwa ajili ya safari hvyo alianza kujiuliza maana ya zile ndoto kama vile yeyen ndoo mnajimu kwakuwa hakuwa na elimu ya utabiri hvyo majibu yake ya ile ndoto yalikuwa ni mengi  kiasi kwamba alishindwa kupata maana halisi ya ndoto ile,jaeth alijipamatumaini pengine ni mpango wa mungu katika safari yake  ya maisha mapya huko aendako,akiwa katika kujiuliza maswari janeth alipitiwa na usigizi hiyvo alilala kwa mara ya pili,baada ya saa 1na nusu njozi mrembo huyo,aliota amechelewa basi stendi hvyo amekosa usafiri  kwa siku hyo na siku inayo fuata hakuna usafili uelekeao dsm alikosa raha kabsa janeth kwani alikua na wasiwasi wa kukosa nafasi chuoni kwani hajui utaratibu wa vyuo vikuu unakuwaje ikiwa katika familia ya mzee masanja yeye ndiye pekee aliyefika elimu ya chuuo kikuu,siku ya tatu basi lilifika asubuhi na mchana likawa linatakiwa kwenda dsm hivyo ndipo alipo anza safari,Glafla Janeth alishtuka usingizini kumbe yupo kitandani na si safarini kiukweli kabsa janeth alikua akilia na kukosa amani na kupoteza matumaini kama mfungwa aliyehukumiwa kunyongwa pale apelekwapo kitanzini,fahamu zilipo mjia janeth aligundua kuwa zile zilkjua ni ndoto tuu hivyo furaha ilitawala moyoni mwake maana usifanye masihala na kufulia ni bora tu usikie kwa jirani mtu wangu

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